I deleted Facebook

I have been mulling around the idea for a while and decided that productivity and so many other things would improve as a result of getting rid of Facebook.  I have not regretted the decision, part of it has helped me start a blog, and I think my solution of what good habit can I replace Facebook with is answer in this very blog and with more productive use of my time in general.
I think my social graces (well no thinking, I know) will improve, I won't feel compelled to check in in social situations and instead actually socialize.  I think Facebook really has made us lack a lot of social graces, I know for some introverts they like it since they don't have to do anything and can "be involved" with what someone is doing, this is a good/bad thing, good because maybe in some cases it might help them be truly social, bad because all they ever do is lurk and never make it to the contact part of this equation.  I also got annoyed because I would use it as a tool to keep up with people and then do some social event or just as a way to say 'hey lets grab a bite to eat or beer and catch up,' in very few cases does that seem to work, I would make a lot of attempted contact with people that asked to be my friend or run into me and ask to exchange phone numbers, ok great your interest in contact is only again the initiation.  It never moves to actual reciprocal connection.  I am just tired of feeling I guess ditched by these people false interest or whatever it is.  I usually waited for people to make the suggestions, send the friend requests, all that because of the lack of any interest to make this social networking site about being social or about networking.  I attempt to use it as a good tool, but contrary to purpose and practice no one else seems to want to mimic that behaviour.  I grew tired of how when I mentioned considering leaving a ton of people that never even post or comment or anything on anything I do complain how much they will miss me... I'm like dude, I tried to make actual contact and keep up, but it seems you would rather just watch everything I do while playing The Police's "Every Breathe you Take" in the background and just being a general creepo.  You realize that if you were to attempt this in a offline fashion you would be arrested right?
My decision to leave is based on how I feel a lot of people on Facebook are vacuous to me in an unseen way, a lot of people drag me down with their bummer comments and constant whining via chat to me, and guess what I find myself doing the same thing, I'm like AHH.  People leech off you on Facebook, ready to pounce on you for whatever reason. I buy a nice new car, people jam up your butt about this and that about how crappy it is or whatever, Jeez people just be happy.  Facebook has just served to make blunt people into extreme jerks and regular people into critical blunt people that are annoying,  they use the excuse "I'm just being matter of fact."  No your being a butthead.  If I do return to Facebook, I'll likely use an alias and make sure I only add up a few people and forget the rest.  Which leads me to the next part.

Why do so many people assume Facebook friends mean you are "BFFs" or people that attempt to know everyone, people that have that many allegiances can't be trusted, look at even the best president or CEO there is always someone pointing at any faults or slight mistakes they have ever done.  The more people you know and have access to your information isn't a more is better situation.  I think of it like that old expression "Jack of all trades, master of none." Same general principle applies here, some good friends that have friend lists into the thousand + range without a good reason seem incapable of having actual friends. Even people that I was really close with before reconnecting, they seem to have this disconnect in all relationships now, yes I'm being very general.  If it weren't for having witnessed it so many times I would not have felt it worthy of mentioning. 

I don't want that many people to keep tabs on me, there are some people that while I still consider them friend, I made an effort to drift away from them for a reason.  One friend, I love her like a big sister and if she needed something I would still help her out, but she just always has to make things a test of friendship and tries to guilt you up about things, I don't like that, I'm a sensitive enough person without someone trying to take my feelings hostage with drama.  I don't know if that makes any sense.  When one of my friends makes it a point to try and go after any of my other friends that post something to my wall meant for me, and they get all up in someone else's business because they feel the need to police what everyone says, that is annoying.  Many have this entitled attitude...

Then there are the people that constantly have these passive aggressive observations directed at everyone, "if you don't repost this msg you are Hitler and throw babies on spikes, you are a huge jerk and no one loves you. Your entire life will be looked back at by the entire universe as the worst ever!!!" That is typically in ALL CAPS.  What the hell people... If you said any of this crap remotely in person people would throw you into an alligator pit or punch you in the face.  Who let all this riff raff on facebook?  I ignore a lot of these people and limit their access to my info and whether they can even post on my wall at times, but I am only doing this because if I delete them "I'm mean," no I'm not mean your are just an energy leeching douche bag that puts everyone down without realizing it, because "I tell it like it is."  I get bluntness, really, I do, but if you lack all manor of compassion and do that all the time, you lack manners and credibility.  I guess when it comes down to it I will see some of these high and mighty posts and feel like I don't do more for others and actually start to feel bad after reading a "chain status."  I could do more etc...

Yes you are probably saying, geez dude why take all this so personal?  Well like I said I am one of those people that, yes I know how this sounds since I'm saying it, is actually sensitive to things around them and if everyone is acting like they have poopy diapers it gets me down.  I don't need people to feel good, but something like Facebook attempts to make everyone need people for energy, extrovert qualities, but for me I don't need that, but for some reason I'm compelled to be on Facebook.  My norm is looking to God and within my own experiences for positive energy, and I start to see all that negativity on Facebook and it gets to me and interrupts my process. *shrug*  I don't know, I process information fast, and literally came up with most of this as I thought about, what about Facebook bothers me? I would get one thing, and then expand, then another, etc.  That and I feel like I'm trying to figure out what exactly it was in order to better understand myself...